Welcome back to the chaotic corner of the internet that I call home. I’m Tina, your resident professional overthinker and occasional chaos-magnet.
I wanted to start today’s post by addressing the elephant in the room—or rather, the digital ghosts in my notifications. I recently saw a quote that hit me right in the soul: “Imagine hating me and I like it.”
It’s bold, it’s a little spicy, and honestly? It’s my new personality trait.
Let’s be real for a second. If you’re like me, you’ve probably spent a good chunk of your life trying to shrink yourself to fit into the Tupperware containers of other people’s expectations. We want to be liked. We want to be the “easy-going” friend, the “agreeable” coworker, the person who doesn’t make waves.
But then, one day, you realize that no matter how much you “shrink,” someone is still going to find you annoying. You could be handing out free gold bars and someone would complain that they’re too heavy.
So, I decided: If I’m going to be “too much,” I might as well be the whole damn buffet.
There is something incredibly liberating about knowing someone out there is currently rolling their eyes at your existence. Think about the energy it takes to hate someone!
• They have to keep track of what you’re doing.
• They have to discuss you with their friends (shoutout to my PR team).
• They have to actively focus on your life instead of their own.
It’s basically a full-time job that I’m not even paying them for. When I say I “like it,” I don’t mean I’m a masochist. I mean that their dislike is a sign of my authenticity. If everyone likes you, you’re probably being a beige wall. I’d rather be a neon-pink strobe light—sure, I might give some people a headache, but the ones who like the party are having a blast.
We’ve all been there—scrolling through social media, seeing someone living their best life, and feeling that tiny, ugly spark of “Ugh, her again?”
I’ve felt it too! It’s human. But the moment I stopped caring if I was the one causing that spark in others, my skin cleared up, my coffee tasted better, and I stopped apologizing for things that didn’t require an apology.
Tip: If you find out someone doesn’t like you, don’t ask “Why?” Instead, ask “And?” Because the “And” is usually followed by… absolutely nothing changing in your actual life.
To the people who think I talk too much, dream too big, or post too many photos of my brunch: Thank you. You are the seasoning on the steak of my life. You keep things interesting. While you’re busy analyzing my “vibe,” I’m busy actually living it. Imagine the frustration of wanting someone to fail or feel bad, only to see them thriving and—worst of all—enjoying the fact that they aren’t your cup of tea.
It’s the ultimate power move.
Life is too short to be lived in the “Middle Ground.” Be the person who is “too loud,” “too ambitious,” or “too weird.” The right people will find your frequency, and the wrong people will just have to deal with the static.
So, to anyone currently hating: Drink your water, mind your business, and keep watching. I’m just getting started, and I’m having a great time doing it.
Stay bold, stay messy, and stay unbothered.
Love (and a little bit of sass),
Tina