Hey everyone, it’s Tina. Pull up a chair, grab a coffee (or something stronger, I don’t judge), and let’s have a little heart-to-heart about the absolute circus that is my personality.
I saw a quote today that hit me so hard I think I have emotional whiplash. It said: “My problem is I don’t be in the wrong, but the way I go about situations be wrong, and that’s what makes me wrong 😂😂😂 ima fix it one day.”
When I tell you I felt seen… I felt exposed. I felt like someone had been following me around with a notebook documenting every time I turned a valid point into a social catastrophe.
The Logical Queen vs. The Spicy Delivery
Here is the thing: In my head, I am a logical queen. I see the facts. I see where someone messed up. I have the receipts, the timestamps, and the moral high ground. I am standing on top of Mount Correctness, waving my flag.
But then? I open my mouth.
And instead of a calm, reasoned explanation, what comes out is usually a mixture of pure sass, a sprinkle of “are you actually serious right now?”, and a tone that could peel paint off a wall. Suddenly, we aren’t talking about the fact that you forgot to do the one thing I asked you to do three times. No, now we’re talking about “Tina’s attitude.” Now I’m the villain of the story because I decided to use a level of sarcasm that requires a specialized permit.
Why the “Obvious” Answer Triggers the Sass
I think it’s because I get so frustrated when the “right” answer seems so obvious. It’s like watching someone try to put a square peg in a round hole for twenty minutes. Eventually, you don’t just say, “Hey, try the round one.” You say, “Bless your heart, is this your first day on Earth?”
And boom. Just like that, I’ve lost the argument. I could be 100% right about the facts, but because I delivered those facts with the energy of a spicy habanero, I’m the one who ends up having to apologize. It’s a talent, really. An exhausting, counter-productive talent.
The Internal Battle: Being Right vs. Being Effective
I know I’m not alone in this. We all have those moments where our inner “Truth Teller” forgets to consult with our inner “Person Who Wants to Keep Their Friends.” It’s that internal battle between:
- Being Right: (Satisfying for about 5 seconds).
- Being Effective: (Actually getting what you want without the drama).
Most days, “Being Right” wins the wrestling match in my brain, and I end up looking like the “bad guy” while holding the correct answer key. It’s like winning a race but accidentally knocking over the trophy table on your way to the finish line. You still won, but everyone is kind of annoyed that there’s glass everywhere.
The “Ima Fix It One Day” Manifesto
The quote ends with “ima fix it one day,” and honestly? Same.
I’m working on my “pause button.” You know, that three-second window where I can decide to be a graceful, mature adult instead of a human flamethrower. I’m learning that you can catch more flies with honey—though, to be honest, I’ve never understood why anyone wants to catch flies. Can we change that saying to “you catch more respect with a deep breath”?
Welcome to the “Wrong Delivery” Club
So, if you’ve ever found yourself apologizing for how you said something even though what you said was objective truth… welcome to the club. We meet on Tuesdays, and we’re trying really hard not to be mean about it.
Does anyone else suffer from “Right Message, Wrong Delivery” syndrome? Tell me your most “Tina” moment in the comments—I need to know I’m not the only one fixing this “one day!”
What a wonderfully honest and entertaining reflection! Your humor and self-awareness make this piece both relatable and refreshing. The way you describe the struggle between being right and being effective is spot-on and something many of us recognize in ourselves. A witty, heartfelt, and engaging read that makes us smile while gently encouraging a bit of self-reflection.