Why My “Circle” is Starting to Look Like a Dot

Morning, everyone! It’s Tina. I hope you’ve got a massive mug of caffeine in your hand because we need to talk.

I woke up today, looked at the calendar, and realized it’s Thursday. We’re this close to the weekend, yet somehow, Thursday always feels like the day where the “people-ing” gets the most exhausting. Is it just me?

Anyway, I saw this quote recently and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it:

“My intentions are always pure. I never have a hidden agenda. That’s why God makes sure he exposes the character of people that don’t need to be around me.”

Oof. Read that again. It’s a lot to process before lunch, right?

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Living With Pure Intentions in a World of Hidden Agendas

If you know me, you know I don’t do “subtle.” I don’t have the storage space in my brain to keep track of a hidden agenda. I’m the person who tells you if you have spinach in your teeth or if that “great idea” you have sounds like a one-way ticket to a disaster movie.

When I love, I love hard. When I’m in your corner, I’m the loudest one cheering. My intentions are usually so transparent they’re practically invisible. I just want everyone to win, for the coffee to be hot, and for us all to get through the day without a meltdown. Simple, right?

But apparently, for some people, “pure intentions” are like a foreign language they don’t want to learn.

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When the Universe Exposes True Character

I used to get so heartbroken when a friendship fizzled out or when someone I trusted suddenly turned into a stranger. I’d spend hours—literally hours—trying to figure out what I did wrong. I’d replay conversations like a bad Netflix documentary, looking for the “clue” I missed.

But lately? I’ve realized that I’m not losing friends; I’m being upgraded. I like to think of it as a divine “spam filter.” You know how your email automatically catches those “You’ve won $10 million!” scams so you don’t even have to see them? That’s what’s happening when someone’s true character is exposed.

The Comedy Gold of “True Colors”

Seriously, some of these “exposures” are comedy gold. I’ve had people reveal their true colors in ways that are so dramatic they should come with a soundtrack:

• The “Supporter”: The one who is only happy for you as long as you aren’t doing better than them.
• The “Confidant”: The person who treats your secrets like they’re breaking news on a 24-hour cycle.
• The “Collaborator”: The one who disappears the moment there’s actual work to be done but shows up for the group photo.

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Scarcity Is a Feature, Not a Bug

It’s like God sees me about to walk into a pit of vipers and says, “Hold on, Tina. Let me show you what’s under that rug before you step on it.”

My circle is definitely getting smaller. Sometimes it feels more like a hula hoop, and on some days, it’s just a very sturdy dot. But you know what? It’s peaceful here. When you stop trying to manage people who have “agendas,” you suddenly have so much more energy for the people who are just as real as you are.

You don’t have to decode their texts. You don’t have to wonder what they meant by that “compliment.” You just get to be you.

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When a Smaller Circle Means More Peace

So, if you’re sitting there this Thursday morning feeling a little lonely because your “circle” feels like it’s shrinking, don’t sweat it. It just means the “trash” is taking itself out to the curb. Let it go. Better things—and better people—are coming to fill that space.

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Let’s Laugh Together

Has anyone else had a “reveal” lately that totally caught them off guard? How did you handle it? Drop a comment below and let’s vent/laugh together!