Friendships and Boundaries in Marriage: A Word from Tina

Marriage, a sacred and beautiful union between two individuals, often finds itself in the murky waters of friendships and boundaries. Many married men and women, intentionally or unintentionally, engage in inappropriate conversations with friends of the same & opposite sex without considering the potential impact on their partners. Tina shares some thought-provoking stories on this often overlooked issue.

Many of us have known or seen couples where if the tables were turned, they themselves would not appreciate such behavior from their partners. Yet, they find it acceptable to partake in it. This double standard not only breeds mistrust in the relationship but also sows seeds of resentment.

Tina recounts tales of married individuals who have friends secretly in love with them, quietly hoping, wishing, and waiting for the day they can replace their friend’s partner. These friendships often involve inappropriate conversations about the partner sometimes leading to sexual conversations where it’s not deemed appropriate for those married or in a relationship, adding fuel to the fire.

The effects of such inappropriate relationships are manifold and severe. They can lead to emotional betrayal, mistrust, and even breakups, whether or not the partner is aware of these interactions. Some individuals believe that what their partner doesn’t know can’t hurt them. This illusion of peace and power is fleeting, and living a double life often leads to a painful downfall.

The thrill of feeling powerful, of feeling like they can get away with anything, feeling of they can still get anyone they want, feeling of having someone who isn’t your partner that can relate to how you feel or your situation, can be intoxicating. Yet, as Tina warns, the cost is often higher than anticipated. The partner, often aware of the emotional, mental, or physical infidelity but choosing silence out of love, will eventually tire of the lies, secrets, and manipulation. This behavior is not only damaging to the relationship but also reflects a pathological, narcissistic, and manipulative personality.

Tina’s stories also highlight the fear of many married individuals of losing friends or facing criticism if they establish boundaries. This fear often leads them to encourage inappropriate interactions instead of being straightforward and setting clear limits where boundaries are respected for the sake of their partner; their relationship/ marriage. However, prioritizing your marriage and your partner’s happiness is crucial, and knowing when to put a stop to inappropriate behavior/ characters, even when the other person doesn’t realize it’s wrong, is necessary.

Married individuals often face the dilemma of friends who are madly in love with them, refusing to let go of the delusion that they will be together someday. This can lead to painful consequences for the partner, hurt both intentionally and unintentionally.

In conclusion, Tina’s stories serve as a stark reminder of the importance of boundaries in marriage. It’s crucial to prioritize your partner’s happiness, communicate openly, and establish clear, respectful boundaries with friends of the same & opposite sex. After all, in a marriage, two hearts are united as one, and that unity must be protected and cherished above all else.




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